Tuesday, April 25, 2017

The Mama Comparison Trap and How I'm Clawing out of It

So, there's this word that should be a dirty word.

It's much longer than four letters, but it's right up there with some of the notorious four letter words.

In today's society of Pinterest perfection and social media isolation, it can be a fatal disease.

It's called comparison.

I'm not as *pretty *smart *thin *good of a cook *wife *Mom

as the person who posts the pictures of their two hour workouts, homemade from scratch dinner, perfectly accessorized living room with their straight A kids sitting quietly doing their homework.

Y'all know what I'm talking about, right?

And I've been guilty.

I'm an introvert who can pour out my life in beautiful prose. I post on social media frequently because if you like my posts, then that means you like me, right?

What I'm writing is not fake, I assure you. It's genuinely from the heart. And if I had the courage, I'd look you right in the eye and say just that...
but often I don't.

So I sometimes hurriedly push my buggy down the aisle at Walmart so I won't have to meet you in the eye. (Just being honest... and I bet sometimes you do the same).

Anyway, sometimes as I scroll down those social media feeds, I find myself getting into that "if only" trap. If I'm not careful, I can find myself a little envious, and then possibly resenting some of the great things that may be happening in other people's lives.

And if social media really is about friendships, and these people on my newsfeed are my "friends"... well, shouldn't I be happy for the good things in their lives???

That dirty word, comparison, can make us feel less than, though...

And human nature is that when we feel less than, we sometimes try to make ourselves feel better by making others feel less than.

It's this never ending cycle of one-up-manship, which is crazy, because stepping on someone else on the way to the top doesn't really get you to the top...

because sooner or later that house of cards will come crashing down.

Living in a small town is hard, sometimes.

Tonight was Academic Boosters for Breathitt County, a program that our county has every year to honor those students in grades 6-12 who have outstanding GPAs.

My internal comparison monitor started going off when I saw all those pictures of those girls and guys dressed up to get their certificate, because this year, Caleb has been a little lazy...

and doesn't that mean that I've been a lazy Mom?

And maybe I have been... because I've totally adopted the choose your own battle phrase.

(So, no, it wasn't a mistake. His name was not accidentally left off the program. He has a 3.2 GPA, which is average. And right now, I'm ok with that. Not ecstatic... but the kid still has his phone.)

While I want Caleb to excel in academics, and it disappoints me because I know he is more than capable of making straight As if he applied himself...

we've also been having a lot of conversations about bettering ourselves outside of the classroom.

I've been more concerned with his character than his academics.

That may sound like a cop out, and tonight, I sure didn't feel like the best Mom, because if I was "better" I maybe would have pushed a little harder...

except there are growing pains that kids have to go through.  My philosophy is that he has to learn to push himself. He's a smart kid, and eventually he will figure out what is important.

And what's important to me right now is that he is compassionate. That he reaches out to others. That he treats everyone the same. That he is respectful.

So, tonight I'm proud of all of his classmates who have that 4.0. I know there are a lot of kids who walked across that stage who have put in long hours doing homework and busting their butts because it doesn't come easy to them. Two or three years ago, I would have been a little jealous, just being honest.

But I've come to a better knowledge of myself (in this minute... that can all change) and I find myself being truly happy for others. Seeing someone else fail won't make me succeed... and seeing other kids fail won't make Caleb work harder on his homework.

And part of being a Mama is learning to nudge enough to get them going in the right direction, not shocking them with a shock collar into submission.

It's taken me a long time to realize this... but not everyone has the same path in life. Comparing yourself to another person is like comparing a cat and a dog. And here's the thing.

My kid and your kid are different. Not all of them have the same capabilities. It's time that we learn to support each other.

Some days, that Mama in Walmart is doing the best that she can.

Mamas, don't beat yourself up. One bad day, or a series of bad days, does not make you a bad mama.

We don't all have to be mirror images of each other.

Choose your battles... and make sure they are worth fighting for.

Keep loving... long and hard. Love your kid for their own abilities. Don't get caught up in what every other kid is doing. That may not be the path for your kid. Don't let anyone tell you that you or your baby are less than because they don't talk a certain way or dress a certain way of make great grades or play some kind of sport.

You as a Mama and your baby are unique... and God's got a plan just for you that will look completely different from me and from Caleb, and that's beautiful... because we can all learn from each other.

He is faithful who began a good work...

and these teenage years aren't going to last forever, so I'm going to enjoy the good and hold my breath during the bad...

So when I get that "less than" feeling, I'm going to think of some of the things I've done right.

I'm going to think of how you are different from me, and think of how I genuinely like you and your child and want the best for you, and say a little prayer that the best will happen.

I'm going to rejoice with you, just as the Bible says... celebrating those accomplishments, because every Mama needs to know her baby is doing something right.

And I'll mourn with you in their weaknesses... when they struggle. When they fall. When they make mistakes. I promise I won't judge. I won't be thankful that it wasn't my own kid... rather, I'll try to put myself in your shoes.

I'll be in your corner. It may just be virtually, over the screen, but as this is my "year to live" I'm trying to come out of my comfort zone and be more "real-life". It's not easy for this introvert, but as a fellow Mama I'll do my best to look you in the eye and say, "You're doing great."

Always remembering that no matter what, I'm blessed to be Caleb's mama.






Saturday, April 15, 2017

Women of Easter

There's something about Easter.

It's full of hope.

But reflecting on it can be sad, especially when we try to put ourselves at the foot of the Cross.

At the foot of the Cross were women who loved Jesus... the Women of Easter.



I love Liz Curtis Higgs, and I adored The Women of Christmas, so I was especially excited to read this.

And it did not disappoint!  Higgs writes with an easy feel, like she's pulled up in front of you with a cup of coffee and you're conversing. She introduced us to Mary the Mother of Jesus, Mary Magdalene, and Mary of Bethany, and described the roles each played in Jesus's life as though she personally knew them... but she supported it with Scriptures! She also brought out the role of women in general in Jesus's ministry.

Interspersed throughout the stories are Scriptural references from various translations, which help  the reader to understand what is meant by the references.

This book is a must read for the Easter season... and as she reminds us at the end of the book, we can be Women of Easter every day because of the hope of Jesus.

Included is a study guide that can be completed individually or with a small group.

  I received this book from the Blogging for Books program in exchange for this review.

Friday, April 14, 2017

Just the Way You Are- Review and Giveaway

 Click link to purchase Just the Way You Are

My thoughts:
Some books just make you feel like the characters are your best friends, and for me, this was one of them. Eisley is a hot mess, but she is a lovely hot mess. She loves chocolate, is a clutz, and is romantic at heart- from a distance. She has her plate full as a single Mom and she has no interest in getting her heart broken again.

But a journey to England to investigate her family past may throw a wrench in that, when she meets handsome Wes, an actor trying to figure out what parts of his life are real and what parts are just leftover from his day job.

This book is a delightful read. The language is easy to follow, and the fun storyline will keep you reading.

Loved this!
 (I did receive a free copy in exchange for an honest review, which I am now writing. This is one I will buy, and I'm really hoping there is a second book in this series!)

About the Book





Book: Just the Way You Are
Author: Pepper Basham
Genre: Contemporary Romance
Single mom, Eisley Barrett, prefers to keep romance safely housed within a centuries-old mystery, but when she travels to England to unearth the secret, an actor with a sordid past offers her reluctant heart a very different type of discovery.

Wes Harrison has a past he’s ashamed to confess. Suspicious and cynical, he’s managed to avoid romantic entanglements since a tragedy upended his career and life, that is until American Eisley Barrett comes along. Her authenticity and kindness upend his bitter assumptions and send his heart into unscripted territory.
When his past threatens to ruin a second chance at love, can some Appalachian matchmaking and letters from the grace salvage their unexpected romance?

About the Author


Pepper Basham is an award-winning author who writes novels inspired by her love for history and the Blue Ridge Mountains. Her Penned in Time series has garnered recognition in the Inspys, Grace Awards, and the ACFW Carol Awards. Her contemporary romance novel, A Twist of Faith, received 4-stars from Romantic Times, and most recently, her newest release, The Thorn Healer, received a Top Pick from RT with 4 ½ stars. Her newest contemporary romance, Just the Way You Are, releases in April 2016. You can get to know Pepper on Facebook, or over at her group blog, The Writer’s Alley, or Instagram.

Guest Post

Thank you so much for featuring my newest novel, Just the Way You Are, on CelebrateLit. I am THRILLED to be a part of this and to share a story that is very dear to my heart.
Just the Way You Are is my first ‘true’ Britallachian romantic comedy. Even though I’ve written comedy in some of my other novels and included elements of both Appalachia and Britain, this one embodies the tag #britallachian to the core. For those of you who’ve read some of my previous books, you know I’m a big fan of my native Blue Ridge Mountains and the Appalachian culture. You may also know that I’m a proud Anglophile.
Those two loves met in Just the Way You Are – and I tossed lots of other things I love best into the mix. What are those ingredients, you might ask?
Well, let me just tell ya! Just the Way You Are is a blend of Blue Ridge Mountains, Appalachian culture, big (hilarious) family dynamics, matchmaking, Britain, a swoony English hero, a quirky, magnanimous heroine, a bunch of adorable kids, Scooby Doo and Indiana Jones references, lots of humor, a historical mystery, a devious villainess, stately manor houses, secret rooms, love letters, and matchmaking all rolled into one…oh, and did I mention brain-numbing romance?
(Did anyone else feel the need to add “fencing, fighting, torture, revenge, giants, monsters, chases, escapes, miracles, true love….” From the Princess Bride?) J I don’t think I included torture, giants, or monsters in Just the Way You Are…but I may have the other elements in this novel J
Okay, maybe I’m exaggerating about the brain-numbing, but I do have a tendency to err on the side of overly dramatic J
Within the pages of Just the Way You Are, you’ll meet people from my own family, people from my imagination, and some people who stepped into the story without one ounce of my planning to ever meet them. This story came out of my desire to write something I love reading – spicy romance, clean humor, culture clashes, the big love of family, and redemption.
How did my heroine Eisley Barrett evolve? Out of thin air. I was washing dishes one afternoon and staring out the window into our small backyard with the Blue Ridge Mountains painting a purplish-blue frame on the horizon when I closed my eyes. Into my imagination came this ginger-headed woman walking through Heathrow International Airport pulling a hot pink bag behind her…and then, she tripped and fell. That was it. That’s how I was introduced to my insecure, hilarious, romance-loving, single-mom heroine.
And the dashing hero? Okay, this may sound ridiculous, but I was watching an interview about Richard Armitage (Thoron Oakenshield, Guy of Gisborne, etc) regarding his lovely costume drama North and South where he plays a very dashing British hero. Anyway, he was SUCH a gentleman to watch during the interview. So polite. Kind. Funny, in a sweet way, and then, out of the blue, he said the word ‘gosh’. I know, that may not be a big deal to anyone but me, but after watching celebrity interviews where every other word needed a censor, the very fact that this elegant man used the word ‘gosh’, sent my writing brain into motion. My first internal question? What if a movie star with a tender heart had been burned by the pretension and expectation of celebrity status? What kind of woman could touch a heart who’d lost his faith in love’s authenticity?
Enter my red-head single-mom toting her pink bag through Heathrow and you have the very beginning of Just the Way You Are – a story of forgiveness, second chances…and a little bit of movie magic.

Blog Stops

April 6: cherylbbookblog
April 8: Bookworm Mama
April 9: Quiet Quilter
April 11: Robin’s Nest
April 14: A Greater Yes
April 15: Just Commonly
April 16: Book by Book
April 17: Splashes of Joy
April 18: Karen Sue Hadley
April 19: Henry Happens
April 19: Baker Kella

Giveaway


To celebrate her tour, Pepper is giving away a Grand Prize consisting of:
A ‘chest’ – in JTWYA historical letters are discovered in a chest that relates to the historical storyline, so all of these lovely goodies are going to be safely inside this chest.
Chocolate – several references take place in JTWYA that compare the hero to chocolate 😉
A plaque about family – because that’s a main point of importance in JTWYA
A Spider-man zipper pull – Pete, the heroine’s son, is a major Spider-man fan.
English Breakfast Tea – The hero is English…swoony English
A dishcloth – again, something that relates to a scene in the book regarding the hero and dishes (twice)
Stirring spoon and measuring cups – food and cooking are a big part of Appalachian culture and fellowship, something celebrated in JTWYA
A notebook – Eisley (the heroine) is taking notes about a historical family mystery
A lovely container full of cloth flowers (for fun, and beauty) – the container says – Love and you will be loved. Loving others has an amazing way to find its way back to us (as is what happens in JTWYA)
A little plaque that reads “You are Loved” – a theme of this story
A beautiful lace doily from England (the English part of the story)
Some “Pixie Dust” a fun visualization of the ‘magic’ of romance in this story
and A copy of Just the Way You Are!!
Click below to enter. Be sure to comment on this post before you enter to claim 9 extra entries! https://promosimple.com/ps/b3e0

Thursday, April 13, 2017

What I Read in March

I only read 7 books in March.


Yes, 7.


And I'm currently reading over 40.  How in the world?


Well, I am down to review a lot of books so I start them and read and read and read and then have only a few pages left when I post the review so I start something else and then I read a lot of Bible study books and I love book clubs....


and yeah.


I'm a little obsessed.


I just keep telling myself it will be summer soon and I can read in my hammock all day long.


Except this is also my year to live, which means that I can't bury my nose in a book every day..


but I can a few days, right?


So... what I read in March-
1. Ante Up- this is a book I reviewed way back in July, but still had to finish the last couple of chapters. It was a delightful read and I highly recommend the entire series!  Aggie has changed a lot in the four books, and this one is by far the "heaviest" as she really struggles with her faith... but it reminds us that God is good, all the time... even when our circumstances aren't always good!


2. The Girl on the Train- This had been on my to read list since it came out, and I really wanted to read it before I watched the movie. It's suspenseful, and I seriously didn't know how it would turn out until the very end. Not even a clue!  If you like thrillers, this is a good book for you. (And I liked it better than the movie... but the movie was good.)


3. Finding I Am- I completed this book through my Proverbs 31 Online Bible Study group. It's the first actual Bible study by Lysa Terkeurst and it broke down the "I AM" statements made by Jesus in the new testament. I. Loved. It. Get a copy. It's good.


4. The Story Keeper by Lisa Wingate- This book is another one I had on my Kindle for a while before I read it. It's the story of a woman from North Carolina who graduated college and headed out to New York, leaving her poverty-stricken family behind. While working at a publishing house, a partial manuscript lands on her desk that reminds her of home. As she begins to research the story, and try to find the mysterious author who penned it, she finds herself drawn into her past and trying to figure out who she is. A delightful read that combines  pieces of the manuscript interwoven with the story. Lovers of Appalachian stories, you'll enjoy this one!


5. Carried Forward by Hope- This is a book in the Bregden Chronicles. I've been reading this series, set during and after the Civil War, for a couple of years now. This one finds the main characters settling into plantation life after the war is over. They must face new roles, new struggles, and learn to depend on each other. I love this series!! I'll be sad to finish the last book.


6. Like a Bee to Honey- I reviewed this book in September as I reviewed the entire series of three books. Each book centers on a different Honeybee sister. This last book is full of suspense and romance. Rose is tender-hearted and wants to see the best in everyone, but somebody doesn't see her in that light. We find out more about the past of the sisters and meet some new shady characters, but the ending is one you'll like!


7. Entrusted by Beth Moore- I read this book with a group of friends online. This Bible study delves into 2 Timothy, and much of it was right on time for what I needed to read. I love Beth Moore, even though at times the way she writes can be a bit challenging to read. There is nothing like in-depth Bible study, though!


As you can see, I've got lots of reading to do to meet my challenge... but summertime is coming!!!




2017 Popsugar Ultimate Reading Challenge
A book recommended by a librarian
A book that's been on your TBR list for way too long- Girl on the Train
A book of letters
An audiobook
A book by a person of color
A book with one of the four seasons in the title
A book that is a story within a story-The Story Keeper
A book with multiple authors
An espionage thriller
A book with a cat on the cover- The Cat That Went Bump in the Night
A book by an author who uses a pseudonym
A bestseller from a genre you don't normally read
A book by or about a person who has a disability- Tough as They Come
A book involving travel
A book with a subtitle
A book that's published in 2017
A book involving a mythical creature
A book you've read before that never fails to make you smile
A book about food
A book with career advice
A book from a nonhuman perspective
A steampunk novel
A book with a red spine
A book seet in the wilderness
A book you loved as a child
A book by an author from a country you've never visited
A book with a title that's a character's name- Dearest Dorothy...
A novel set during wartime
A book with an unreliable narrator
A book with pictures
A book where the main character is a different ethnicity than you
A book about an interesting woman
A book set in two different time periods
A book with a month or day of the week in the title
A book set in a hotel
A book written by someone you admire
A book that's becoming a movie in 2017
A book set around a holiday other than Christmas
The first book in a series you haven't read before- The Most Famous Illegal Parade in Goose Creek
A book you bought on a trip



Advanced
A book recommended by an author you love
A bestseller from 2016- Hillbilly Elegy
A book with a family member term in the title
A book that takes place over a character's life span
A book about an immigrant or refugee
A book from a genre/subgenre you've never heard of
A book with an eccentric character
A book that's more than 800 pages
A book you got from a used book sale
A book that's been mentioned in another book
A book about a difficult topic
A book based on mythology    

Wednesday, April 12, 2017

What I Learned from Getting my DNP that You can't Learn in a Classroom

It's been kind of quiet around here lately, except for a few posts about books.



Which are obviously great posts, because I love books.


I've been kind of in a standstill mode the last couple of months....


I've always loved learning. Loved studying. Loved writing papers (until I ran into the horror that is APA!). I've often said I would be a professional student if I could support my book-buying habits by doing so, but, alas...


So it just seemed a natural progression for me to continue my education. As I wrote about in 2013, getting a doctorate degree has been on my bucket list.


I started in 2012 at Western Kentucky University. I had an awesome friend to embark on the journey with me. Jenna and I drove to Bowling Green once a month, and spent a lot of time complaining on instant messaging.


And I learned a lot about research, and about nursing policy, and about advanced practice nursing.


I enjoyed it, except for the endless hours of juggling paper writing and reading articles and commenting on discussion boards.


Then, in January of 2014, at the beginning of the semester, my Mamaw Na died.


Grief is a funny thing. I found myself driving to Hazard to teach fundamentals, getting to the tech campus and not really remembering the drive. I was overwhelmed with thinking about starting a research project, overwhelmed by work, going to ballgames and doing life and just basically going through the motions.


That year, I had chosen the word "be" to lead my life, and at the end of the semester, I realized that I wasn't "being" anything.


So I quit.


I stopped going through the motions and tried to reengage.


But... Wallace pushed me to go back... so I did. I got
brave, even though I didn't feel like it.


I developed a research project and with the help of an awesome advisor, completed it.


And through this whole process, I learned a lot.


1. Family and friends and people really are the most important things. Yes, now that I'm standing on the other side, I'm glad I finished. I'm proud of myself, and thankful that I had my family's support... but the completion of the degree wouldn't have been possible without the people who supported me.


2. Prayer really does change things. I prayed my way through nursing school. Prayed my way through this DNP program... but this time last week I was terrified. I asked for prayer in Bible study and almost started crying I was so overwhelmed... but yesterday, as I finished presentation, I felt peace. I knew it wasn't anything I had done. I knew that it was because I had people from my ladies group and my online Bible study group and my family and friends and students praying for me. He really will bring a peace that passes all understanding.


3. It's ok to recognize that you aren't ok. When I quit that summer, I wasn't in a good place. You wouldn't have known it to look at me. I did an awfully good job of painting a smile on my face.


But there was something deep down that just wasn't right. It wasn't necessarily spiritual, because Jesus was still my number  one hombre and I still trusted God... but maybe I didn't trust Him enough.


So by stepping back, I was able to prioritize and realize that my people were the most important "things" and that I had to do something to make myself happy. (Not that happiness is a goal... because I think chasing happiness can actually lead to more struggles if we get selfish about it).


4. It's not ok to just quit. I am a quitter by nature. You can read all about it in this post... a self-professed quitter. I don't think God wants us to be a quitter. Let's face it... quitting is the easy road. If I had quit, I wouldn't have had to do that research project or all the hours of writing and revising.


But I always would have regretted it. I would have had to try to explain to Caleb that it's ok to quit... and it's not.
(Unless something is dangerous. Or addictive. Then quit. It's absolutely ok to quit in that case!!!)


5. It's all about balance. I had to learn to care for myself, care for my family, work, and go to school. I didn't really figure it all out until after I quit. I do know that the last year of my life has been about the best one that I can remember (other than the unexpected sorrows from 2016). As I looked at my goal of completing the DNP, I also realized that I wanted to LIVE. Really live... .so much so that I made it the focus of 2017.
I'm still learning about balance. I still have more laundry, and my house could use a really good cleaning...
but I'm learning to put down the book (even though I love it!) and go for a walk with my family. Watch a movie that I didn't want to because Wallace did. Sit down in the kayak and let him push me out into the water, and appreciate the breeze through my hair and the sun on my face.


There's a time for everything, and we really need to learn to figure out how to make the most time for the most important things.




6. You can do more than you ever thought you could.
This last year I don't know how many times I found myself thinking, "I don't think I can do this."


But I did.


And you can, too...


whatever your bucket list item is. Whatever your dream is. Whatever your "I can't" is...


You can.


A huge thank you to everyone who supported me in this process. Life really is one huge learning curve, and at this juncture of my life I'm more aware of who I am, and kind of actually like me.


Most days.



Monday, April 10, 2017

Baggage Claim: A Review and a Giveaway

I LOVE this book. It's easy to read, with quick chapters and a pull-you-in plot that keeps you wanting to turn the page. Ben is likeable, and you find your heart breaking for him as he struggles to try to raise his kiddos while working and trying to figure out exactly who he is. His Nanny is no-nonsense, until we learn she has a hidden side. Intrigue, drama, pain, and love... an excellent combination for a fun read. You'll be glad you picked this one up.

About the Book



Book: Baggage Claim
Author: Cathe Swanson
Genre: Christian Suspense/Romance
Release Date: February 14, 2017

There had to be at least one healthy branch on his family tree…
Who can he trust?
Ben Taylor, widower and father of four lively children, enjoys his easy, uncomplicated life. He likes his work and has a competent nanny to manage his household. Everything is good until he decides to seek out his biological parents and discovers a family tree with tangled roots and broken branches.
His comfortable life crumbles when he gets caught up in a criminal network of fraud and conspiracy at his new job. When Ben is forced into a dangerous alliance, he scrambles to find a safe situation and protection for his children before setting out to clear his name—all without getting himself killed in the process.
A nanny with a past…
Becoming a nanny was the perfect solution when Teresa Cooper needed a place to hide ten years ago, but now that she’s no longer in danger, she’s ready to move on and make a new life for herself. When Ben asks her to take the children to an unknown relative in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan, she finds herself in hiding again, this time with four children in tow.
As the children explore the wilderness of the Upper Peninsula, Teresa begins to wonder about God’s plan for her future. Who is this stranger Ben trusts with his children? Why here? Can a city-bred nanny find joy in this wild corner of God’s creation?

About the Author:


Cathe Swanson lives in Wisconsin with her husband of 32 years. They enjoy spending time with their family and being outdoors, kayaking, hiking, birdwatching and fishing, but summer is short in Wisconsin, so it’s important to have indoor hobbies, too. Cathe has been a quilter and teacher of quiltmaking for over 25 years, and she enjoys just about any kind of creative work, especially those involving fiber or paper. She enjoys writing stories with eccentric characters of all ages. Her books will make you laugh and make you cry – and then make you laugh again.

Guest Post by Cathe Swanson:
When I was in high school, I thought I might like to become an occupational therapist. Instead, I got married, had babies, raised the children and launched them into the world. I took a few years to regroup, and then I started thinking about what I wanted to do with the rest of my life.
Shortly after that, my dad had a stroke, and when he came home from the hospital, I was fascinated by the work of the visiting therapists. I did some research and learned that physical and occupational therapy assistants make pretty good money and are able to do the best part of the job – the therapy. Therapists are often bogged down in paperwork and periodic assessments. The assistant has all the fun, and it’s just a 5-semester program.
So I trotted on down to the local community college and asked what I had to do to get signed up. The counsellor talked for a while about prerequisites, petitions, waiting lists, internships, and other such things. Eventually I realized she was trying to tell me that I was too old to embark on this career. Too taken-aback to be offended, I went home and wrote a book about it instead. After all, I’d invested a lot of time in research.
I’d been writing stories for years, and already had the bones of Baggage Claim. Once I gave my young hero a job as a physical therapy assistant, the story took on life. My mother’s interest in genealogy had sparked a question: What if a nice, normal person wanted to track down their biological family and it blew up in their face? So that’s where I sent my hero, and as one of my reviewers said, “It was not a Hallmark moment.”
I’m very happy as an author and have no real interest in becoming an occupational therapist. Indeed, that rejection was a turning point for me. I could have pushed forward and got that degree, but instead I went home and wrote. I have no regrets.

Blog Stops

March 29: A Greater Yes
March 30: Genesis 5020
April 1: Quiet Quilter
April 2: autism mom
April 7: Carpe Diem
April 9: Bigreadersite
 
Giveaway:
To celebrate her tour, Cathe is giving away Grand prize themed gift box that will include:
A decorative suitcase box
Earl Grey Tea
A handmade mug rug
A pretty mug
14 handmade all-occasion cards
And a paperback copy of Baggage Claim!! Click below to enter. Be sure to comment on this post before you enter to claim 9 extra entries! https://promosimple.com/ps/b2c8 

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Finding Hope in Savannah: A Review and a Giveaway



There's just something about the South. I consider myself Southern and love to read books set in Southern locations- Georgia, North Carolina, and South Carolina being my favorites. There's something romantic and calming about the ocean and the history behind these beautiful lands.


Wardwell calls this to mind in Finding Hope in Savannah. Liz is a mama who must protect her son, and she does so by seeking a new life in a small community just outside of Savannah. While there, she encounters Jake.


These characters are the kind you find yourself cheering for. You hurt when they hurt and long for them to be able to trust God... which is difficult. The story reflects real-life emotions, and ultimately shows that hope can be found when we look to the right place- God and His almighty power.


The language of this book is easy to read and it flows well. If you're looking for a great beach read, I'd highly recommend this because it's just exciting enough to keep you entertained but light enough to not overwhelm...


About the Book:






Book: Finding Hope in Savannah
Author: Melissa Wardwell
Genre: Christian Suspense/Romance
Release Date: September 15, 2016




Elizabeth “Liz” Thompson liked her quiet, predictable life with her son. When she witnesses something horrifying and dangerous, they are forced into hiding. She seeks refuge in the small community of Isle of Hope, Georgia only to find that her life and her heart are still hanging in the balance.
Officer Jake Andrews, dedicated his life to protect and serve the people of Savannah. In the back of his mind always wondering “what if?”. The arrival of a young woman from his past forces him to face a long-buried secret, that will change how he sees his future.
As danger comes to Georgia, Liz & Jake must learn to trust God and each other, to see their way out of the situation.
About the Author:


Melissa resides in a small mid-Michigan farm community with her husband and three children, all of whom they home school. Besides writing, she enjoys reading, taking photos, and motorcycle rides with her husband. Her hope is that each story touches your heart, gives you hope, or just gives you a moment away from the chaos of life


Guest Post from Melissa Wardwell

Finding myself though “Finding Hope in Savannah”
Writing this book opened my eyes to quite a few things about myself. It opened a door to a need to discover new places and try new things. To step outside of my shell and not be afraid to discover what I am capable of as a wife, mother, and a Christian Woman. In one scene, I have “Liz” talking about how she wishes she could be brave enough to face things without being so fearful of the outcome. I was reminded that when we are moving in Christ’s will for our lives, there is nothing to fear.


When I came up with the idea for “Finding Hope in Savannah” I wanted a location that was unlike any place I have ever been. All my other books take place in my area. So, I set out to find images of some place warm and southern. I came across images of this little community on the outskirts of Savannah Georgia called Isle of Hope. I loved the looks of this little haven so much, I made it the location of this book.


Writing the descriptions on the location was a bit of a stretch of my imagination. I hadn’t seen it, smelled it, or touched it in any way. The writing of this book just so happened to be the same year as when our family would be driving to Florida for a family vacation. After expressing my frustration in not getting the feel of the place right, my darling husband suggested leaving a bit earlier and spending some time in Savannah on the way down. I am so glad we did and I discovered for myself why it is considered the most beautiful city in the United States.
This book isn’t just a love story or a story about a woman in hiding, but about a single mother of a tween boy who is trying her best to find her way in this world. Having two teen boys of my own I know how fun, as well as gross, boys can be but to get the right mind set for “Liz” I had to do some homework. It took watching and talking to my friends who are single mothers, hear their concerns about life and managing their time. I admire those who have to play both roles every day and still have a smile on their faces. With my husband’s job, I am on my own with the kids part of the time, but it is only part time. I couldn’t imagine raising my three all by myself. My hats off to all the single mommies of the world.

Blog Stops

April 11: A Greater Yes
April 12: Bigreadersite
April 14: Carpe Diem
April 16: Quiet Quilter

Giveaway!


To celebrate her tour, Melissa is giving away one print copy of “Finding Hope in Savannah” as well as a $10 Amazon gift card!! Click below to enter. Be sure to comment on this post before you enter to claim 9 extra entries! https://promosimple.com/ps/b2b9

Monday, April 3, 2017

Such a Tease: A Review and a Giveaway

Let me first say that I have loved everything  I have ever read by Chautona Havig. Her characters are likeable, her plot is easy to follow, and there is usually enough excitement to keep  the reader involved. This second book in the series is no different. I love Madeline's enthusiasm, but sometimes want to shake her. I'd highly recommend this book to anyone who is a lover of historical fiction or mysteries.




Book: Such a Tease
Author: Chautona Havig
Genre: Christian Fiction/Historical/Mystery
Release Date: March 21, 2017
Madeline, with a little assistance, discovers her old adversary is gaining a following in Rockland! Can she expose him for the fraud she’s sure he is?
In book two of the Meddlin’ Madeline series, Madeline Brown has a new endeavor to occupy her time. But is it to keep her out of the way or a reward for her work in Sweet on You? With the help of her young friends, Madeline discovers her old adversary is gaining a following in Rockland! What’s a girl to do?
But her new position also gives her opportunities to observe, and what she sees sets more than one new investigation in motion. What does her old suitor, Delbert Jackson, know? Why is Mr. Merton giving important papers to that scoundrel, Vernon Smythe, and whatever happened to poor Abigail Cooper?
Add to these intriguing questions Henry Hardwick’s continued attentions, Edith’s newfound devotion to the temperance movement and Madeline’s determination to find her a more reliable suitor, and strange behavior from her Aunt Louisa and things heat up as summer fades from Rockland.
Her dear friend, Russell, busy with an important project at work, finds himself unable to help keep her out of trouble and away from danger. Is Madeline going too far? Will her meddling get her in serious trouble this time, will it destroy her reputation irreparably, or will she rid Rockland of a scoundrel once and for all?


About the Author




Author of the Amazon bestselling Aggie, Past Forward, and HearthLand series, Chautona considers herself blessed to live in California’s Mojave Desert with her husband and five of her nine children. When not writing, which she admits isn’t often, Chautona enjoys blogging, paper crafts, sewing, smocking, photo editing, and old (read: before her parents’ time) music.


Guest Post by Author


Leon Czolgosz is my new nemesis. He’s dead, but he ruined my book. No, really. The guy totally destroyed the opening pages of Such a Tease.
Now, these days, not a whole lot of people remember the name of Leon Cozolgosz. I didn’t. But I’ll never forget him now (although I may never remember how to spell his name).
Who is he? Only the guy who shot President McKinley. Why am I annoyed with him over a hundred years later? The idiot did this thing on September 6, 1901. You know, four days after this book opened? Yeah. Couldn’t he have done it on say… January 6, 1901? Even January 6, 1902 would have served my purposes.
Look, I’m not as callous as I appear. Truly. But if President McKinley had to die, did his murderer have to do it when it would completely mess up my book?

How did it mess up my book you ask?

I’ll tell you. I left it out—the whole assassination thing. There I was, fixing a wedding date for one of the characters, when a thought occurred to me. She could be married on Flag Day—if Flag Day was a thing then. I didn’t think it was. I really thought Wilson was responsible for that—you know, creating holidays in between his notes to Kaiser Wilhelm of Germany or something like that. But I hoped. Somehow—just maybe. I mean we had Labor Day from Cleveland, why not Flag Day from McKinley. But noooooo. He didn’t. What did he do?
He got shot. Four days after my book opened. And there wasn’t a single word about it in the story.
Like I could ever get away with that. This was news! Big news. And nothing about it in the life of a daughter of a politician? I think not.
Not only did this Leon Czolgosz (no, really. It’s spelled correctly) shoot the president on September 6th, but he didn’t do a good job of it! Look, I think I’ve established that I didn’t want President McKinley killed. But if the guy with the unpronounceable last name had to do it, couldn’t he have done a good job of it? Couldn’t he have shot the president in the head? McKinley suffered for eight days before he died. Eight days! They thought he was getting better and then gangrene killed him.
It would have been a mercy had Leon just shot McKinley in the head or the heart. Why the abdomen? Cruel, if you ask me, even for an anarchist.
And it made adding the whole affair to my book even more problematic. No, really! Think about it. I couldn’t have the newspapers announce the death of President McKinley on September 7th and then have a few mentions of the bank being affected or something. No… no… now I had to have a headline event, give false hope, and then add the death on top of it all.
Look, I do an obscene amount of research for my books. No, really. Keen was slang in 1901. Woohoo! Look up “peachy keen”? Yeah. Can’t use it. 1950s. The telephone? Can Madeline expect to use one in a burgeoning city in 1901? Considering there were over 850,000 telephones in use, yes. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to assume that a photographer who works for a local paper might have a telephone in order to receive calls requesting him to come photograph some big event—like the Mayor’s speech on the death of President McKinley, perchance?
Yep. Somehow, I almost missed one of the biggest events in US history. Research saved the book—and ruined my timeline. All at the same time. Gotta love history. Or not.
And Leon Czolgosz? Yeah. Thanks for nothing.

Blog Stops

March 23: A Greater Yes
March 24: Carpe Diem
March 27: Splashesofjoy
March 29: Lots of Helpers
March 29: The Scribbler
March 30: Bigreadersite
April 1: Pause for Tales


Giveaway


To celebrate her tour, Chautona is giving away a Reader’s Teaser Package
that includes:
A paperback copy of both Sweet on You and Such a Tease
A “Tea-for-One” teapot
A Tin of loose-leaf tea of your choice (six options available from our local tearoom)
A pound of assorted See’s chocolates
A set of six handmade antique-inspired note cards
A $25 Amazon Gift Card
And, for the teaser… the winner will also receive the exclusive short story (usually reserved for pre-orders) The Fate of Abigail Cooper!! Click below to enter. Be sure to comment on this post before you enter to claim 9 extra entries! https://promosimple.com/ps/b2b8